Do you still believe in changing the world?

In an article about purpose and resetting life, I wrote that I was going to change the world.

I worked hard and got top grades because I was going to change the world. Change the world by day and love the world by night. Geoff, Nut Fed

A recent question inspired me to write this follow-up.

I want to know if you stopped believing that this was possible, or if you still believe it? Friend

  1. I have not stopped believing in changing the world.
  2. Getting top grades is meaningless.
  3. My work, “change by day and love by night”, are one and the same.

1. I have not stopped believing in changing the world.

A friend messaged me privately to agree with words I wrote in an article about community called why I dream of living in a commune.  They said they feel it so strongly but felt like they were giving up admitting it.

I do not believe even our most dedicated individual efforts for self-improvement and world change have a large enough impact within the structure and against the momentum of the world as we know it. Geoff, We Learn Love

I explained to the friend who asked if I still believed:

Changing “the” world has become very much more about finding the good people and building community. Geoff

  1. Step 1, change starts with you.
  2. Step 2 isn’t changing the world.  Step 2 is with your closest friends and family.  It’s about community.  It’s about depth, not breadth.
  3. Step 3, breadth will follow meaningful change.

My inspiration is not simply to live an arbitrary life as another drop in the dead sea.

A life worth living does not involve 40 hours a week working for money in a world plagued with loneliness, fear and inaction.  A commune is not nearly as extreme as the progress I’d like to see in the world.  Love and joyful experience are fundamentally more important than accumulation of material wealth.  Let us put ourselves to the most fulfilling possible quest of pioneering the work of being alive and relating to ourselves and each other.  Find highest value in relationships as our ultimate means to feeling joyful, alive, and loved. Geoff, We Learn Love

So yes.  So very yes.  I absolutely believe in changing the world.  One life at a time.  Starting with my own.  Becoming a more compassionate and powerful person every day.  Meeting and joining like-minded inspired individuals.  Communing in pursuit and practice of our deepest transpersonal visions.  Modeling living in love for generations to come.

2. Getting top grades is meaningless.

  • Education is important.
  • Action is supreme.

For most of us, our best option was to stay in school and get good grades.  It’s the best we knew.  We’ll see this shift in the next generation.  As we shift into the information generation, tuition to physical attend university becomes absurd in comparison to affordable personalized online educations.  There’s nothing wrong with the old system except that it’s wasteful.

Everyone who ever said “why do we need to learn this” was saying far more than they could have imagined.  The “real world” is so much less about what we learned in grade school than it is about emotional health and interpersonal relationships.  Multiplication and geography are not at the top of Maslow’s Hierarchy of needs.

We do not need to learn war history or anti-racism if we dive straight into humanness, compassion and universal community.  We cannot simply put down arms all at once, but trust me no matter how much we shout for it, it will be a slow process.  So shout for it, and find your like-minded awakened souls and start exploring your hearts.

Our parents and the generations before us have built this world for us, in war and peace.  Theirs is the collective consciousness from which we are born.  Their hard work and tough lessons are the reason we stand so comfortable and deep.  Take a minute to thank your parents.  We have more to be grateful than we could ever comprehend.

3. “Change by day and love by night” are the same.

The work I do for the world is the change I make for love, each and every day.  I am as human as anyone else and in some ways maybe a bit worse.  The work I do for love starts with myself, managing my sensitivity and expression while continuing to open my mind and heart to new ideas, love and purpose.

I ask that we live in pursuit, grateful for all that we have and always in the action of love and compassion.  Gratitude itself is love and relating to this article is an act of compassion.  Develop awareness of these not simply as concepts but as living experiences.

Recognize our capacity for choice and change, to exercise perspective and action as though life itself was ultimately a journey toward self-actualization.  Recognize your arrogance and the vastness of what you do not know and cannot possibly foresee.  Take relief and inspiration in knowing your importance as an element of change.

Forget the fool’s errand of perfecting appearance and hoarding anything as though it were static or ever yours to keep.  Yours is this moment and the fundamental point of value is in your experience here and now.  You need not the yacht or period at the end of this sentence to feel good now, to reach out and improve someone’s day, and take action towards your highest purpose.

Live deliberately and start now.

You are love.  Namaste.

 

Replace blame with personal responsibility.

Replace blame…

X is why my life isn’t Y.

Success begins in the mind.  If you don’t believe you can do something, you won’t try.  Blame assumes something else is in control.  When you blame – you lose the power to rewrite the story.  If you choose blame, you conclude your tragedy.

…with personal responsibility.

This is how I will make my life…

Shift from “This is why my life isn’t…” to “This is how I will make my life…”

When you choose personal responsibility, you empower yourself.

Decide that now is the perfect moment to change your life.

Do:

Start paying attention to the way you think and speak.  Can you rewrite your stories to empower yourself?  Catch yourself in blame and share the empowered version with us below.

Inspired by:

This article was inspired by an article about Mindset for a Successful, Fulfilling Life written by Alexander Heyne at Milk The Pigeon.

What are you happy for?

I didn’t feel like getting out of bed this morning.  I was having a hard day before it even started.  But after each successive snooze I found more concerned text messages from my girlfriend.  I finally got up and called her.  She was glad that I was okay but even more excited to share an article she’d found.

I called her on my way to work so she could read it to me.  I asked who wrote the article but she wouldn’t tell me.  She started reading and I loved it from the start.

It was friendly, personable, and gave a fresh perspective on a familiar idea.  It fits the Nut Fed tagline – fresh ideas timeless wisdom.

Daily Writing

I built a website for daily writing but the front page was empty.  I wanted something that would encourage new users to register and use the website.  I needed a summary of the many benefits of writing every day.  I added quotes from around the web but the article my girlfriend found was much better.

Gratitude Journal

One of the reasons I wanted to build 130words.com was to keep a daily gratitude journal.  My sister has been writing a daily gratitude journal for years now and she swears by it.  I’ve wanted to start the habit but could never settle on a place to write.

I finally solved the problem by building my own daily writing website.  Just register, create a custom category like “gratitude journal” and write in it every day.  Try it now!

Happiness Journal

The article was about gratitude journaling but with a twist.  It’s a happiness journal. You don’t need to write about things that “warm your soul or make you feel whole.  Write anything that makes you smile.  That’s enough.”

As my girlfriend finished reading the article she slowed down and read the last example… “I am happy for my brother’s laughter over the phone.”  Then she paused and said… your sister wrote this article.

—  I was flattered and proud all at once.  —

My sister’s been building a blog to support her dream career.  I heard an article for the first time and was genuinely impressed.  The closing warmed my heart and made me feel genuinely valued.

What am I happy for?

I’m happy for my sister.  She is a great source of inspiration.  She writes well, loves well and lives with confidence.  I admire her courage and wish her well as she quits her job to build her dream career.

Read her article Happiness Counts and track her progress at juliahalefitness.com.

What are you happy for?

Write now at 130words.com or leave a comment below.  If it’s about someone you love let them know.  They may not know how much something they do means to you.  They’ll be happy to know they’re appreciated and the love will be returned.  I’ll be sure to laugh next time I’m on the phone with my sister.  😉

Unhappiness as motivation for change

The response to last week’s article was flattering.  We had several shares on Facebook and a small army discussing it on Reddit.  I’m getting positive feedback from old friends and complete strangers.  An old friend and mentor wrote:

Love the new blog!!!  Your writing will make a world of difference.  Spread your message to the world and the tribe will follow.

He also addressed the problem of the hour, which I face yet again this evening.  I’m tired and bored at my day job.  It’s easy to get discouraged and forget the good things a job provides.  A job may not be the best way of making money but it’s a good place to start.

Your job is an opportunity.  It’s an achievement that you’ve attained.  It alleviates the money concern.  Now you’re concerned about your health, your friends and family, your time and your life’s purpose.  Your concerns are elevated to a new level.

Don’t view your work as taking away from your mission.  It’s setting you up and will make you enjoy your journey that much more.  Be thankful for every day behind that desk.  It gets you closer to success every single day!

Another wise friend wrote a supporting message to our readers about confidence and noticing change in this process of personal development.

The changes inside of you will be noticed while you’re continuing onto your life’s work. It may come in the form of a subtle reaction that surprises you. Or a decision you make that you know you wouldn’t have made in the past.

I learned a lot last week.  I learned that great good and growth can come from opening up and being a bit vulnerable.  I was afraid to complain about my situation, recognizing how fortunate I am.  I also recognize that there’s a clear difference between whining and productive reflection on a problem I’m having.  And most of all, those ideas for solving a problem or approaching a difficult situation can inspire and be helpful to others.

So what’s eating you today?  Is there something you’d like to improve?  How are you going to approach the problem?  Could someone else learn from your approach?  How will you know until you share?

In the comments below, share your perspective or approach to solving a personal problem.  Ask yourself what you’d like to improve and use the first thing that comes to mind.  What’s the most important thing you can do in the next 24 hours?  Share with us below.

I’d like to improve how I feel about my job.

I catch myself behaving as though letting my job feel worse will help me get a new job thus solving my problem.  This is a terrible approach to improving my situation.  Letting my job feel worse will mean that I feel worse in the short term.  And crushing my spirits will not inspire me in the long run.  This behavior accomplishes nothing!

Relying on unhappiness as stimulus for positive change is unacceptable.

Make the most of where you are.  Keep a list of upsides and take advantage of them.  When you’re faced with a task you don’t want to do, be gentle.  Break it up, take baby steps and reward yourself.  Don’t stress if it’s not up to someone else’s standards – you’re not going to be stuck there much longer.  Do what you feel is right.  Don’t worry about others.  Do what makes you proud.

Your situation will improve instantly.  But don’t forget the greener pastures.  First be fair – is your job so terrible or is your perspective to blame?  If you’re job’s not so bad, coast and get to work on your dream.  If there’s something better for you out there, get to work.  Build the bridge and enjoy every step of your epic journey to a better situation.

Clarify that vision.  Set goals for improvement.  Focus your goals on self, not circumstance.  Have a plan.  Focus on high-return tasks – those are usually the ones you avoid doing.  Do one every day – put in the effort, take the risk, then you’re off the hook for the day.  Make progress every day.

No matter what you do, you are fortunate.  Take time to recognize the upsides of your situation and maximize them.  This will not prevent you from making positive change.  In fact it will boost your self-esteem and inspire you towards bigger goals than you dared dream.  Clarify the vision, set personal goals and make real progress everyday.

What situation would you like to improve?  What does improvement look like?  What are you going to do about it?  Share with us in the comments below!

How to Align Your Life for Success

I want to do the work I was put here to do.

I’ve been researching what my favorite bloggers do and recommend.  Jeff Goin’s best advice on blogging is to be yourself.  Steve Pavlina says to let your audience see the real you.  There’s no debate about getting personal.

I’m tired tonight.

I’m tired tonight but not sure why.  I didn’t get enough sleep Sunday night but I made up for it last night.  I worked all day but work has been boring as usual.  It’s a great time for research, coding, and thinking about what to write about tonight.  But I feel too tired to get excited about anything tonight.

I feel a bit depleted and I’m concerned that I may not have the resources to refill this part of my soul faster than it’s being drained by my job.  I’m an engineer that wants to be a web developer that wants to be financially free so I can write, travel and change the world.  There are so many things I wish I could do with my time, but I’m stuck at work for most of the week.

What do you want from life?

Life is about discovering yourself, embracing your true purpose and doing your life’s work.

Anyone that seems like they’re happily living an aimless life is a good actor or accomplishing absolutely nothing with their lives.  It’s not that I don’t want to work anymore.  I want to do the work I was put here to do.

I remind myself that my circumstances are intentionally chosen steps on a path towards my vision for an ideal future.  My future has never been more clear than now.  And I don’t mean I’m stuck.  I mean I finally know exactly what I want.  I finally know how I’m going to get there.

Self Discovery

We’ve all achieved and function at different levels of self-awareness.  All of us can benefit from time alone, but those just beginning their journey will benefit most from experience, isolation and self-reflection.  If you’ve lived a sheltered life it’s time to break away from your parents, get out and see the world and try new things.  Your assumptions will be challenged, your ignorance exposed, and in learning about the world you will actually be discovering yourself.

For those with a wealth of experience, it’s time to get in touch with yourself.  Find time to be alone and get sensitive.  Block out the world for a while.  Turn off the TV, tell your friends and family you’re going away for a while, then don’t go anywhere.  Be with yourself.  As the constant barrage of propaganda and imposed assumptions fade to distant echoes you will be left undeniably with yourself.

You will feel empowered with a confidence that comes from knowing yourself.

When you return to your normal routine you will feel anything but normal.  You will feel empowered with a confidence that comes from knowing yourself.  This is your first step on the path to discovering your life’s purpose.

Alignment

Now that you’ve developed a sense of true meaning for your life, your real work has just begun.  You will be confronted by challenges and demons but you will be motivated like never before.  You will face opposition and upset.  Now is more important than ever for a healthy lifestyle, personal development and support from your friends and family.

I’ll spare you a million cliches about sharpening your axe and preparing for battle and invent one about a lab.  You’re a scientist and you’ve discovered your life’s work.  It’s time to acquire the tools that you need for the job.  You’re going to need capital resources and suppliers, lab assistants and a plan.  So much to do, so little time.  Invest wisely.

Now that you’re more in touch with yourself you may be less susceptible to distraction and social pressure.  You may notice that you feel more connected to some of your friends and less tolerant of others.

Some people may energize and inspire you while others leave you drained.  It’s time to recognize that you have a calling and not everyone is going to support your dreams.

Positive Influence

Never is it more important to surround yourself with positive people than when you need the reinforcement.  Most of us already have jobs and responsibilities and habits that fill our days.  Embracing your calling and transitioning into alignment with your purpose will involve a lot of changes.  It will be stressful and tiring.  You have no time for vampires, nay-sayers and toxic personalities.

At this point in my journey, I’m spreading myself too thin – I admit it.  I have a full-time job, a part-time consulting gig, web development coursework and projects, a committed relationship and now this blog.  The friends I’ve left behind would say I’m crazy.  The close friends I have commend and support me.

It’s nights like these when I’m feeling overwhelmed that are best for self-reflection.  I make sure my priorities are in order.  I consider my habits and the people in my life.  I align myself with my purpose.  And the article writes itself.

 

Reasons You Should Never Get A Job

Having a job is the worst way to make money.

You only get paid while you’re working.

We’re encouraged by our parents to go to college and get a good job.  This is a good way to guarantee student loan debt and line you up for a midlife crisis.

No job is “good” for the rest of your life.  You’re excited now?  You’ll get over it.

If you have anything of value to offer the world, don’t get a job!  Provide.

Product or service – if it’s of value, we’ll buy it.

We don’t care how long it took you to do it.  We only care about the value we receive.  It it’s of value, we’ll pay you for it.

Don’t trade your time for money.  De-couple your value from your time.  Build a system that generates a passive income.  This can be a business, a website like this one, becoming an investor or getting royalties from creative work.  The system delivers value to customers and you get paid whether you’re at work or not.

It takes an initial investment of time and effort to build your passive income system.  You don’t need to reinvent the wheel.  Just remember to provide value.

If you don’t know how to start a business or build a website – no problem.  Learn!  Learning at a job may be useful for a minute, then it’s repetitive and useless.  Don’t get a job. Go to the library.  Or keep reading.

Yes, this all takes time.  But when you’re done, you’re free.  Instead of wasting your life away saving pennies for your midlife crisis, you’ll be working your way to financial freedom.

You like your job?  Good.  Do it because you like it.  Not because you have to.

And if you do like your job, please help me understand how your natural independent will has come to terms with obeying your master’s nonsensical rules while you trade your time for his financial gain.  Office party on his yacht?

Generate income through other means.  You can earn income by trading value – not your time.  Provide your best value and charge a fair price for it.  Start a business and do what you do best.

All you really need is the courage to be yourself.  Your value is in who you are, not what you do.  Summon the courage to express your real self to the world.

You already know deep down that you don’t want a job.  Trust your inner wisdom.  Years from now you’ll thank yourself.

This post was inspired by Steve Pavlina’s 10 Reasons You Should Never Get A Job.